Your values drive your life!
Recently, I attended Dr John D Martini’s 2-day Breakthrough Experience program.
He is profound and shared generously his wisdom after spending most of his years of research into about 272 disciplines governing life’s philosophy.
Here are some pointers that I would like to summarised as lessons.
Our values shape our destiny. Each of us are driven by our values in the seven areas of life.
1) Spiritual
2) Mental Development
3) Vocation/ Career
4) Finance
5) Familial /Relationships
6) Social
7) Physical/ Wellbeing
The most important question is what is your area in your life that you tend to value most.
For example, if I value Financial Success, I will likely spend time reading, researching, studying, interviewing and taking action in the area that will likely get us ahead financially. Of course, the more time and energy you invest in each of these areas, the more learnings, growth and insights you have in these areas.
Question : Which are the top three areas that you value most. Which means you tend to spend most time and energy on. Please do not say that family is the most important if you feel that it is important but has not put in the time and energy to nurture the bonds.
Do most of us have certain areas in our life that we value most? Yes, and we tend to see the area that we value most as our spiritual quest. You tend to accept people who share similar mindset as you and may even judge people who don’t.
Ultimately, it is not about who is right or wrong, we just live our lives according to our values. To expect people to live according to your values is to have unrealistic expectations. Similarly, it is also unrealistic for people to expect us to live according to their values.
This is interesting as this have an impact on our relationships as well. Dr D Martini shared that we tend to attract people whom are opposite in us in our relationships! Is that true in your case? In fact, if two people are exactly alike, one of them is redundant! We learn the most and grow the most by being with people and loving people whom are least like us.
Also, in case you are feeling a certain void in your life, that void can automatically becomes your top value! For example, if you are financially broke, now your top value is to turn your financial results around. If you are feeling empty as you do not have the soul mate to share it with, you are likely going to find a way to fill that void. Similarly, if your health is suffering now, you will now put your wellbeing as your top priority. Whatever is your void is now your top value.
Having shared this, is it possible for us to have a balanced life in each of these area. The good news is yes! We will still have certain areas of our life that is more important, but if we should set meaningful goals in each of the area, we can develop ourselves as a multidimensional being.
I wish you luck and hope you find fulfillment in all areas of life!
June 6th, 2008 by wendy | No Comments »

In October 06, Wendy’s Bistro, a fine dining concept restaurant was officially opened. So far, the feedback of the food in Wendy’s Bistro has been fabulous!! Even though we are two months old, we are already having regular customers from all walks of life. We are positioning ourselves with the USPs of serving the yummiest portabello mushroom, juiciest grilled steaks, heavenly red wine and the famous Mango Lassi (my favorite) at a fraction of fine dining price.














